Hello everyone it's Raven again. I wanted to speak up about a few things that really gets to me. It's the LONG GOING debate on Religion with Relationships. I myself am super spiritual, my husband is spiritual but he calls himself Christian. We work... Do you know why? Because we accept the differences! I see so many people avoid others like the PLAGUE because of difference in Religion it's just insane!
So I've dated a lot of guys in my past, and most were Christian but a few were Mormon and a few others were a different type (I don't fully remember) and I've been Spiritual sense I can remember. It didn't change the fact that I thought I "Loved" them... But for some reason THEY themselves couldn't get over my preference for my way of thinking. It did make me sad because man this one time it was HORRIBLE.... Okay, here's an example. A perfect one that I'm sure a few of you out there have gone through :) Here ya go....
I dated this guy back in like 2010 or so... I was still young yet and I had everything I wanted and had just left a bad relationship so I was looking for "Safety" I thought I found it in this one guy right? (That's what most women think, he hasn't dated anyone really.... he works a lot he seems like the "Safe" choice to maybe like and fall for Spoiler Alert... It was a HUGE mistake)
So I spent the fuel to go see him, drove the hour to go out and see him and things were great. Yea, sure he lived with his Mom. Not a big deal in this day and age. His Mom seemed to like me alright :) I got her son to get his license. :) yay me right? I used to drive a big gas hog F350 with a 460 big block in it, lifted and had 35"s under it my truck was a BEAST and I loved it so much!
Out camping getting firewood.
Driving to Wa with a ton of hay 
As y'all can see my truck meant a lot to me and got me through a lot of troubled times He was my boy when the rest of the guys turned on me. But it wasn't working to go see my new boyfriend every other day with my big truck. Especially sense I got pulled over by a state trooper once because he has oversize tires without side fenders and no mud flaps. I didn't have the money to get those things to make my truck "Legal" on the road and I had to choose. Do I keep my truck I love dearly OR do I sell it and get a car? At the time I was one tracked mind wanting to keep my relationship with this guy I thought was "Safe" so I sold my truck. :( I bought myself a car. Straight across trade I got 4K for my truck they flipped it and sold it for 12K and he was gone within the week. I was on my way out with my new car to go see my boyfriend when he told me that his Mother has informed me I'm no longer aloud on the property... Guess why that was? Because I was Spiritual and in her eyes "Spiritual" meant something HORRIBLE and bad. I don't get why all these people who don't understand it think I'm going to cast some spell on them. lol Turn em into a frog. If I could do that, then I'd probably do that to everyone who ever hurt me. But it's not realistic and I don't dabble in that! So here I am... Heart broken (Because he left me shortly after that) and I lost my truck who kept me going through the hardest parts of my life. All because of... Say it with me... RELIGION!
I for one personally think that Religion should stay the heck out of relationships lol but that's just me. Like I said earlier my Husband he is Christian, I am spiritual. My husband, he prays, sings gospel songs, talks about Jesus and God like their his best friends. Me, I rather be in nature talking to animals and working with animals and seeing the beauty of nature. But him and I work great together because we have accepted it. I accept that he prays and sings. It used to get on my nerves but we've come to a mutual ground. I now love to hear him sing his songs :) it's calming for me. He now can tell me more about God and Jesus and I don't feel an overwhelming sensation of Anxiety.
People in my opinion who say that religion is why they broke up, or why it's not working... They just don't want to be in that relationship anymore. It's an excuse, because anyone can work out their religious beliefs and have it work out for both of them :)
If you have a husband, Boyfriend that doesn't like you for your religious beliefs and gives you crap for it... Why stay with him? IF you accept him for who he is and he can't seem to accept you, why do you want to stick around? Think hard about that.. They'll always be someone else who'll treat you better and who'll understand you more. Same goes for a guy who has a Girlfriend or Wife... IF you can't work it out, if you can't come to a compromise or understanding it wont work (I watched my folks of 30 something years break up due to different beliefs)
Work on who you are as a person, then work on who your with. :) Give and take. It's a understanding and it's a tolerance. I can tolerate any religious belief (I say belief because I'm not big on Religion) because I accept them all.. I myself don't want to be poked and prodded and told "Think this way" naw I'll laugh and walk away from those people. But... I'm always down for listening and figuring out who these folks are about and if I really want to be involved with them. You should bring that same opinion into relationships I think. Open mind... Give a different religion a try. See what it's like :)
I'd love to hear your stories and hear what you've done. If it worked, if it didn't work. If life got better or worse when you came out with who you are in your religious beliefs.
Thank you for listening rather "Reading" my little rant. This is my second blog and I thought it would be fun and a good test to see if everyone wants to hear more from me or not :) Totally unedited just straight from my brain to my hands hehe (Or keyboard if you wanna be correct) and this was my first thought that came to mind to rant about lol
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